Shine a New Light on Your Relationship

Couples Counselling in Victoria, British Columbia

Master of Social Work (MSW) & Member Of BCASW

Stephen Marcus, Psychotherapist & Relationship Counsellor

Registered Clinical Social Worker (RCSW) Licensed in BC

Tired of the same fights? Check outs and let downs?

Your relationship isn't broken, it just needs a different approach.

Let me guess, things were great in the beginning but then something shifted. You don’t quite know exactly what, but you know things aren’t as easy as they used to be. Maybe you’ve tried fixing the problems but that only seems to make things worse. You’re both tired of putting in your best and seeing things slip anyways. Maybe you’re even at a crossroads where you’re aren’t even sure you’re in the right relationship.

You deserve to be in a badass relationship, a team, a force that moves forward together, not in opposite directions. Click below if you’re ready to drop in to something better.

How I can help

I help couples slow down, find stuck points, and sharpen skills to improve communication and connection.

  • Track the dance you both do that spirals into fights and disconnection
  • Gain skills in getting heard and feeling seen by one another
  • Exercises to help you be a team again and face challenges together
  • Learn to negotiate when you want different things
Couples Counselling in Victoria

Couples Counselling & Therapy

As a Psychotherapist and a Relationship Coach, I use a combination of approaches including (EFCT, Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and Somatic Therapy to help you make lasting changes in your relationship. I will help you map out where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to go. Turn fights into closeness, change painful patterns into new choices. Get the relationship you’ve been hoping for.

Men's Counselling & Therapy

Counselling for Individuals

If you feel lost, overwhelmed, or stuck, you’re not broken, you just need someone who gets you. I can help you get to know yourself better and focus on the choices you want to make.

Group Counselling for Men In Victoria

Men's Circle

Men’s Circle is a space for you to show up as you are and leave who you want to be. Men are taught to toughen up, move forward, and be quite about their pain. This may work for a while, but when it stops working, it can become a mountain on your back. Men’s Circle is a place to get heard, seen, and called up to your best self.

My approach

I approach counselling and therapy with a warm, direct, and open curiosity. I focus on helping you carve out what you want to get out of each session and support you in finding a path to get there. 

Real change isn’t easy—but it is possible.

Get Started

Reaching out can feel like a big step, especially if things have felt stuck for a long time. If you’re ready to work on the patterns that keep getting in the way — whether on your own or with your partner — I’d be glad to help.

Using Conflict to Your Advantage

What you can expect

Change doesn’t come from quick fixes; it grows from learning to understand yourself differently and choosing to respond in new ways, especially in moments that once felt automatic. Over time, people often notice they feel calmer and less reactive, stay present in conversations that used to overwhelm them, understand their partner more clearly, feel more connected and less alone in the relationship, and develop a stronger sense of themselves.

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